Our daughter Maggie visited us last week. She told us that she is planning to give her kids an aquarium because she does not like them to be in front of the computer and using their game consoles for the whole day. She asked her dad if he has suggestions about what best breeds of fishes to get. He told her that he does not know anything about aquarium fishes, but he knows someone who fits the bill. He shared that his friend, John owns a pet shop downtown and he knows everything about fishes. He asked our daughter if she wanted him to accompany her when she goes to the shop and she told me that it would be wonderful.
That same day, the two of them went to the pet shop and Maggie was surprised and amazed about how many varieties of fishes that she could choose from, for her kids. She asked John about the most popular fishes that his customers buy from the shop and he told her that aquarium catfishes are so popular right now, especially the cory catsfish and the pictus catfish which everyone loves to put into their tanks because they are so playful and very active. He also mentioned that it is a good idea that I get a wide variety of fishes and colors so that my kids would love feeding watching and them for hours. He also suggested getting fishes with different personalities so it would be more exciting to watch. She asked for a quote about how much is a tank full of fishes and she thought that it was fairly priced. She told him that she would come back in a few days during his husband’s day off and then they would get their kids a big tank. John thanked Jim for visiting him at the shop and he told him to try to visit him as much as he could because he might be moving soon with his son in New Jersey. He was startled by the news, but our daughter had other things to do so they needed to go home. My husband told John to visit him later at our home so they could talk about it and he agreed.
After a few hours, Maggie dropped her dad off and bade us goodbye because she still had many errands to go. She told us that she would drop by again next time when she buys her kids a fish tank from John’s shop. Meanwhile, Jim told me about John moving to New Jersey and I was also surprised about it because I know that he does not like traveling that much and he loves our city. That was the same sentiment that my husband felt and he told me that he invited John to come over later. I asked him about what should I prepare for them. He told me that a couple bottles of ice-cold beers and chips would not hurt so bad as we both chuckled.
My husband has been a cigarette smoker even before we knew each other. He told me that he started smoking during college. I have tried to nag him to quit for years, but it did not work. He told me that smoking is like his way of de-stressing himself of all his problems every day. Like with every whiff off his smoke, all his problems gone astray. I told him that there are other better ways that could alleviate his stress like sports, watching TV or even hanging out with his buddies. He shared that he tried to quit a few times, but he could not. I told him that I did not know that and he said that he did not want me to know that he failed and I hugged him. I told him that if he really wanted to quit, I could always help him and who knows that; maybe, his third time is the charm.
I asked him about the reason why he wanted to quit in the first place and he said that a buddy of him died months ago. He did not know about what was the exact condition that killed him, but it was a toss-up between bronchitis vs. pneumonia because he knew that he had problems with breathing and he was smoking a lot like two to three packs of Marlboros per day. He could barely remember, but he thought that he heard him mention bronchitis remedies one time, so maybe it was bronchitis. The last time that they have talked was a few days before his friend died. He visited him in the hospital and he felt so bad to look at him because he was wearing an oxygen mask just to breathe properly. The last words that his friend told my husband was that he needed to quit before something like that happens to him. His friend died because there was too much fluid in his lungs and the doctors were too late when they have tried to resuscitate him. He added that he did not attend the funeral because he was afraid to see the scenario that might happen to him. He added that he was the one who taught him how to smoke back when they were younger.
I researched on the web for steps on how to quit smoking for good. I have read many interesting articles that I am sure that Jim would love to read. I have read that since he has been smoking for more than fifteen years, he is a nicotine addict, so he needs some help from nicotine patches as these god sent patches will help him gradually lessen and quit smoking for good. There are also a number of things that could help his addiction like chewing gum or hard candy when he has urges to smoke. He could also use delaying tactics like diverting his attention to other things instead of giving in to his urges.
I know that quitting smoking would be very hard, but I will always be at my husband’s side through the good and bad times. I know that we could do it. I just need to motivate him each day and always remind him about the reason why he is trying to quit.